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Subject: Re: scared

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 04/ 5/07 2:20pm
In reply to: Monica 's message, "Re: scared" on 04/ 5/07 1:10am

Hi Monica,

Welcome to the forum! This is a great place. I really liked what Shellie said about knowing that it's totally normal to feel a negative reaction upon discovering an unplanned pregnancy. It's a big deal! The main thing is in how you respond to the situation, and my hope for you is that the next few weeks/months will be filled with a supernatural grace to adjust to this unexpected event.

I also agree that your parents may well react negatively initially, but would be very unusual parents if they didn't eventually come to support you, even if they don't agree with the fact that you're pregnant. And yes, a grandchild is a hard thing to call 'bad' once they are placed in their arms.

In the event that they do actually kick you out, please know that there is an enormous host of resources for pregnant women and you definitely won't go homeless. We can help you find some of those here, if the need arises.

You might wish to take another test just to be sure, but like Shellie said the odds are pretty good that you are.

You mentioned how your boyfriend and parents would/will feel about you being pregnant; how do YOU feel about it?

Heather

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Re: scared

Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 04/ 5/07 6:38pm

If you followed the directions on the pregnancy test, then most likely the results are accurate. False negatives are not uncommon. False positives are rare. However, getting a second test certainly won't hurt anything.

If you are worried about getting kicked out, you might want to talk to someone about your options if you need a place to live. Some Crisis Pregnancy Centers are tied in with shepherding homes. Then, I do recommend that you tell your parents since they will most likely find out anyway. If you tell them before they figure it out, they are less likely to be hurt. It's possible they will be really upset at first, which is a normal reaction. If they kicked you out now, they would be missing their grandson, I'm sure, so they may surprise you. It's also normal for us to imagine the worst-case scenario.

As for your boyfriend, he may or may not come around. If he hasn't abandoned you from the start, I'd say that's a good sign at least.

Hang in there and look for support and help. Find people who will be positive with you about the situation. You'd be amazed at what a difference that can make.

If there is anything I can do to help, just let me know.

--Melanie