Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 06/13/07 11:19am
Sandee,
Here is one place where you will need to show her some tough love, and it might or might not work. Tell her that she is threatening to abort your grandchild, and that this is unacceptable. Tell her that if she has an abortion, they will slice up her baby, and this will cause your grandchild excruciating pain. Tell her that abortion is NOT safe, and she could bring harm on herself, up to and including death. Tell her that if she does, you will disown her. Mean it. Tell her that you won't have a murderer in your home. (If she is not living in your home, you can still tell her that she is not to call or visit you at all, if she goes through with it.) I don't know if this will work, but it's the only thing I can think of. Or, hijack her and have someone who can show her what abortion is talk to her. And if she still persists, go back to disowning her. Feel free to yell and scream at her. Let her SEE how you feel.
It's not that you want to reject her. But the fact is, God will reject her if she does that and doesn't repent, so it is certainly appropriate. And obviously, if she does it and repents later, you will want to take her back. But right now, she needs to be stopped by any means possible. I can think of only one thing to do and that is to make your opposition EMPHATIC. She needs to know that even if she gets away with it (emotionally and medically), there will be consequences.
It might or might not work. All I can tell you is that I told our children that if they ever got involved in abortion, they would be disinherited, that it is in our wills. And nobody did.
One thing also to keep in mind that I learned is that sometimes we aren't meant to save a particular baby, but the next baby that woman conceives.
She may also be getting pressure from the father of the child, so if you can read HIM the riot act, you should also do that. Tell him that if he is pressuring her in any way, you will sue him for wrongful death. You can find an attorney who will do this pro bono, in all probability. It's not an angle that I know of has been tried. But there are attorneys out there who will do pro bono work on abortion cases. We can help you find one. You can even tell your daughter you will sue HER for wrongful death if she does it. If possible, enlist him to tell her that if she does it, their relationship is OVER. It's even possible that he would like to protect his child, but thinks he doesn't stand a chance.
I realize this will make it difficult for her to reconcile with you, so think of a way of letting her know that you love her, and that's why you have to do this, and that if she has medical problems or whatever, or wants to be reconciled she may contact you, but NOT UNTIL she has repented and sought God's forgiveness. Maybe a crisis pregnancy counselor can help with that. This is the hardest part for me to wrap my brain around.
We will pray for her.
Hugs,
Pat
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