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Subject: Re: Unplanned... Author: Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 06/28/07 1:02am In reply to: Erin 's message, "Unplanned..." on 06/27/07 8:15pm Hi Erin, I'm so sorry you have to deal with your boyfriend's negative reaction! I'm sure you have your own fears and concerns and could use his support and reassurance! It's normal for your boyfriend to have a negative first reaction. He may just need time to soak in the news. It's scary when your plans all change in an instant and suddenly you feel like you have no control over your own life. If this man is dedicated to you, and loves you, he'll most likely fall in love with his child. I need to close this message and get some shuteye, but I'll talk to you again real soon. Please post here as often as you like! Take care, Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Unplanned... Author: Melanie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06/28/07 11:42am Hi Erin, It's pretty tough when the dad isn't supportive. Most likely he is just scared. I don't know if it will help, but you could reassure him that no one is ever "ready" for a baby, and point out to him all the positives about your situation in being ready (good job, etc.) If he says he doesn't know how he will feel, tell him, "most likely like a proud papa." LOL First reaction to the news of pregnancy is like that for some guys, and they often do change over time, especially if you are resolute as you seem to be. I know it somehow doesn't seem fair that you are in the position of reassuring him when you most need reassurance, but it already sounds like he is starting to relax a little bit. Just hang in there, and rely on those that are happy for you to get you through until he gets used to the idea. Have you scheduled your first visit yet? I know seeing an ultrasound does often help. It really helps for the guys to see something tangible and "real". Anyway, keep me posted and feel free to e-mail me anytime if I can be of any help. --Melanie P.S. I am happy for you! Congrats!!!