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Subject: Re: scared Author: Heather [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 08/30/06 2:50pm In reply to: pixey 's message, "scared" on 08/30/06 12:48am Hi Pixey, I can't say it much better than Luka did, but want to add my agreement. My husband and I were married and 'semi' planning for a child, had the support of family, etc, and I was still a nervous wreck even though I was thrilled to be expecting. You'd be surprised how much you just sort of 'know' what to do when it's your own baby, though. It helped me a lot, too, to read up and get familiar with what was going on as much as I could, though. Like Luka said, you just can't account for everything and there will always be variables (that's what makes it an adventure, lol) but getting knowledge on what can be known ahead of time is definitely a reassuring thing. As to the longer term health and well-being of your baby as they go through life, it might help, too, to know that ultimately you aren't responsible for that. You do the best you can to love, nurture and protect them because they are SO dear to your heart, but ultimately their life, choices, and circumstances are their own. I have to remind myself of that periodically, even though mine are still pretty young, because I just know it's going to be so bittersweet to see them grow up and 'away' into adults. I have to entrust them to God, the One who made them, and realize they are His, not mine, and I have been blessed with the special joy and stewardship of being their mother. Practical FYI - beware of the hormones! Many wise women informed me early on in my pregnancies not to make any lasting assessments of myself, life, or others while 'under the influence' of those wacky hormones that would make me feel very vulnerable one moment and 'on top of the world' the next. Each woman is different, just something to watch for. :) Don't hesitate to ask away any questions you have here. With Support, Heather [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: scared Author: luka [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/30/06 3:38pm You raised a Very important point about hormones there Heather they do make you feel different and make you more worried/concerned about everything than you usually are. that may just be natures way of making sure you are attentive and caring for and about your baby. "As to the longer term health and well-being of your baby as they go through life, it might help, too, to know that ultimately you aren't responsible for that. You do the best you can to love, nurture and protect them because they are SO dear to your heart, but ultimately their life, choices, and circumstances are their own." ~ That's food for thought. I've never heard it put like that before.