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Subject: Re: Help Author: Lisa [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 11/10/06 7:54am In reply to: Susan 's message, "Help" on 11/ 9/06 2:28pm Hello Susan, Welcome to the board and congratulations on your pregnancy! Is this your first child? I would not worry about your boyfriend right now. Your feelings and emotions are what count right now. You never know how he might react. As far as your baby being "out of wedlock" I do not like that term at all. It puts a negative image on the child and that is not fair. All babies are a gift and it does not matter how they came into this world. That said, we can help you with some resources. We would need your state at least. A city would help too. I am not the best one to go for that, but Tracey and Shellie and Pat and some of the others here can help you. If you feel strongly against an abortion, that is good and I think you will continue to feel this way. I had my unplanned baby at the age of 35. She will be 3 in December now and she is the best thing to ever happen to me. I have struggled, sure and I still do. But it has all been worth it in the end. It is ok to be afraid right now. We will help you in any way we can. Do you know how far along you are? Lisa [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Help Author: Tracey [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01/11/07 5:19am Susan~ Hey! All of your feelings are totally normal! Unplanned pregnancies can be pretty scary, but thank God He gave us 9 months to figure it all out. You yourself said you were highly against abortion, so don't have one. I know that sounds simpler said than done, but I really do think if you end up having one, you will only resent your boyfriend and yourself. I know so many women that live with the every day regret of having an abortion. Once that child is gone, you can never get him/her back. It's so final. Right now you are in a state of shock and sometimes your initial reaction is just to get rid of the "problem." You almost talk yourself into it, thinking you will just be able to get over it and forget. But you never will. Especially if it's something you are against to begin with. Susan, right now this all just is shocking and scary. But I promise over time, this will be so small in comparison to the love of your child. You are already a mother and whether you go through this or not, you always will be. The good news is we are here to support and help! We can help you find a local pregnancy center in your area that can offer help and support. You are not alone! If you need help in finding one, just let us know your state and closest city. We will do our best to help you in finding resources. Please keep us posted and feel free to post here anytime! You, your boyfriend, and your little one will be in my prayers! God bless, Tracey