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Subject: Re: Help!!! Single, pregnant and 40.

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Shellie

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Date Posted: 03/14/07 3:02pm
In reply to: Beth 's message, "Help!!! Single, pregnant and 40." on 03/14/07 9:50am

Hi Beth,

I'm so happy you came here! Unfortuately, I'm headed out the door right now. I'll post as soon as I can. I just wanted to let you know this board isn't completely dead--you will get responses!

Talk to you soon!

Shellie

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Lisa
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Date Posted: 03/14/07 6:15pm

Hi there Beth,

Welcome to the board and congratulations on your baby! I think it it wonderful that you are having a new little addition!

I was 35 when I had my little unplanned baby. She is now 3 years old. I will be 39 in May. So you and I are really close in age. I was so worried about being able to make it also. She was my first child (will most likely be my only, but you never know!) Sophie has been the best thing to ever happen to me and when I look back and remember those early feelings of not being able to take care of her, I realize that it was really the fear of the unknown that I was feeling.

You can do this. You do not need to have an abortion. You do not mention a few things that are important. Where do you live? Where is the father of the baby, how does he fit in? Are you working now, or in school?

These things can all be dealt with. I (as most of the women on here are) am living proof.

I was in school full time when I got pregnant, I hoad a job working one day a week, I had a car and a nice apartment. Things fell apart quickly and I lost a lot. I struggled and was very sad. Heck, I still struggle with financial things.

I could tell you my story if you are interested, but my point is that if I can do it, and I hit rock bottom when I had my daughter, you can do it.

I brought myself back up and my daughter was there for me the whole time. She is the light at the end of the tunnel for me.

I hope you will stay here and let us know more of your situation. You only need to tell us what you feel comfortable with, but if we know a little more, we can give you a lot more answers.

I ended up with medical care, WIC and a lot of free things for my baby. Plus my friends threw me a baby shower and I received a lot of things.

My daughters father who I did not stay with, now pays quite a large amount for her child support each month, after I took him to court. Plus he pays over 2/3 of her child care bill each month. Plus he has her on his medical. So she does not want for very much.

You will do just fine. Let us know how you are doing. We all care about you and your new little one!

Lisa