Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 07/11/06 6:53pm
Hi Jacequeline,
"I know im going to regret this abortion i know im going to be depressed i know its going to kill me but what choice do i have...."
You have a choice not to have the abortion, with two choices springing from that one - to keep the baby yourself and work it into your life or place the baby with another family that is waiting with open arms to love and care for a baby.
No one said either of these are easy choices, but they are choices. Abortion is a hard choice, too. And it kills another human being.
"i dont want to be a single mother i absolutely 100 percent am oposed to that....."
It's not selfish to feel that way at all. Single motherhood is not the ideal and not how it was designed to be. This is even evidenced in nature. But it happens, especially with sex outside of the design of marriage. There are many ways to redeem the situation. Many things don't go as they should but can be navigated by grace to be something of great value all the same.
Your instincts are good, both the ones that give you a sense of bonding and nurturing towards the little person growing in you and the ones to not make them live with single motherhood.
But while single motherhood is not the ideal, would you have preferred that your mother made the choice of killing you before you were born to spare you from it?
Keep an open mind, you're not trapped. You don't have to have the abortion if you don't want to do it. There's a hope, love, and respect found in the other choices that's not there in abortion. Abortion is only death, and the emptiness and death that you feel afterwards may not be as easily traversed as you might think.
Before your appointment, make sure you respect yourself by getting informed about abortionh procedures, side-effects, abortion stories from women in all walks of life, and fetal development.
Here's the link to a great photo of a human fetus just 6 weeks from conception:
http://www.virginiapregnancy.org/fetal_slides/fet_devpix04.gif
That's great that you Canadians get all the free healthcare and perks. The US should learn from that model.
Wishing you peace and grace,
Heather
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