Date Posted:17:39:03 10/28/05 Fri Author:jane larson Subject: Re: The loss of my only child In reply to:
Renee Gray
's message, "The loss of my only child" on 11:46:20 10/17/04 Sun
Dear Rene'e, I am so sorry for all the pain you have been in from the loss of your son, John. My son, Alex, died of a drug overdose in Sept. He was 22. I searched for a grief support group online, and I found a fabulous one a griefnet.com. They have groups for grieving parents, and you can even find one that fits you specifically. I'm in a group for mom's whose kids died of substance abuse. I know they have a group for moms--and dads--who lost their children in an accident. It helps so much to put your feelings into words, and the other moms at the site will understand exactly what you're going through, because they either have been or are going through the same thing. You can write any time, and usually several moms will answer you within a few hours. I have found it to be a very healing place. Please give it a try. BTW, I sleep with one of Alex's shirts ON my pillow. And it doesn't matter one whit what anyone else says or thinks about whatever you are doing to be able to cope. Unless they have also lost a child, they have NO idea! That's what I really like about griefnet--everyone has been there. They all get it. It's very comforting. I'm sending you peace and light. love, jane larson** alex*mom
>I feel as though I have been buried alive. I had only
>one child, and I lost my beautiful son of 19 years on
>June 19th, 2004, due to an accident. I had been a
>single parent from the time he was 10 mos. old. He was
>the only grandchild of my parent and the joy of their
>world. He was adored by my only sister, whom has never
>married. Our world has been ripped apart. We made John
>the center of our lives. He would tell his friends
>that his mom was his best-friend. I don't know what to
>do without him. I have closed myself off from the
>world. I have never in my life felt such pain and
>hurt. I miss my baby boy so much.
>Please, I need someone that understands what I am
>feeling to help me. Thank you and keep me in all your
>prayers.
>Remembering my beautiful son, John Ethan.
>Rene'e Gray
