Date Posted:21:08:20 11/19/04 Fri Author:Krista Subject: Even after seven years, what do you do to cope?
My first baby (Lynnessa) was born on Aug. 24, 1997 and died Aug. 25, 1997. It's now Nov. 2004 and that makes it 7 years since she died. I often find myself still in a daze when it comes to the thought of her. I guess my question is, even after seven years of her being gone, how does one cope with it? I still cry when I think of her or when a song reminds me of her. Mother's Day is the big one for me. Yeah I have three children now since Lynnessa but there is still that missing gap. I had the support of family and friends when Lynnessa first passed away, but after a while, they all just quit talking about it. Now when we bring her up, the subject gets changed real quick. It's hard to explain my feelings but how do you cope with the sometimes depression that sets in? I know the depression comes from Lynnessa. People have told me 'go to a doctor' or a councelor. Yeah a councelor is a good thing, but what if the councelor has not experienced this loss? How will that councelor help me? And what if someone like me doesn't have the money to pay for a coucelor? I've talked to my Pastor, but again, he never experienced anything like this and doesn't know what to say.
