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Date Posted: 17:53:34 04/11/03 Fri
Author: Tilly
Subject: Re: Personal moral debates
In reply to: Ariana Aislinn 's message, "Personal moral debates" on 17:05:23 04/11/03 Fri

>But I guess I've been wondering if it's really right.

What's more important is that in five years, you probably won't even remember. The ideas of "Right and Wrong" are better left, at least for me, for the Big Issues if you get me.

Certainly it's impolite, but I've always felt that with LQ, all bets are off. ^_~

>I guess I also wonder about WHAT I read that she said.
>If it was a public comment, rant, review, or forum
>post, it's probably fair game. But what about private
>IM discussions, and stuff like that? I really don't
>know.

Well, it's impolite, to be sure. But it's not illegal. ^_^


>I've been reading some of her standard posts on PR,
>and she sounds so HUMAN sometimes, if you know what I
>mean. Like, talking about her bird sitting in her
>keyboard tray. I was tempted to respond with an
>anecdote about my parakeet, Twerp. But I guess I'm
>afraid if I act at all friendly toward her, or even
>just civil, she's going to go ballistic if and when
>she realizes I frequent this board

Nah, she probably won't. She'd probably just try to win you over, and show you what a decent person she (thinks she) is. By now, she knows she can't afford to purposely piss anyone else off by jumping on them just for frequenting a board. Dollars to donuts she'd just pull the "pity me, and see what a sweet person I can be" thinf out of her ass again. She wouldn't freak out on you.

There's no reason why you shouldn't give her the benefit of the doubt, though. Everyone else did. ^_^


>I get the impression that she overreacts to
>everything. I feel like I should give her a chance, as
>I've always had a personal policy of judging people
>based on my experiences of them, not on hearsay or
>past mistakes...

Do! If it means that much to you. As for me, I'm not out looking for friends or more chat buddies. I can afford to be rude. And like I said: when it comes to someone who's proven herself (to me) to be a redneck, nearly illiterate bully who steals art and stories to boot, all bets are off.


but if I give LQ the benefit of the
>doubt and treat her as just another person, she might
>suspect me of dissembling, and for that matter,
>I might suspect myself of dissembling. It seems
>somehow hypocritical, doesn't it, to think someone can
>be a downright jerk, but then to treat them with
>sugary sweetness when you talk to them?

Well if I were at that point, I'd have to wonder if I was taking it all too seriously. ^_^ Honestly though, for all of her whining and moaning and playing her sad, sad violin over there, it's not such a serious thing. So people pick on her on the internet. Other people get picked on. She picks on other people. It's the way of things.

>I guess this is a symptom of a greater moral dilemma
>I've always had trouble with. What's worse, talking
>about someone behind their back, or talking about them
>to their face?

Behind their back is worse, at least in my experience. That's why I have to laugh everytime LQ threatens me thta she's going to find out stuff that I've written. Hello! There's nothing I've said about her that I haven't said to her. What fun would that be? ;)


>I guess the real answer would be not to
>say negative things about them at all.

Which, if you ask me, is totally unrealistic. Especially when you're dealing with someone as unbelievably stupid and mean as LQ.



>I'm not trying to start an argument with anyone
>really, I'm just trying to raise some interesting
>points. Let's just say, I had considered telling LQ
>that I had read her stories and heard the tales about
>her, but I was going to give her the benefit of the
>doubt and respect her wishes not to refer to MIL or
>the name LQ. But I have a feeling that once I even
>mentioned MIL or Tilly, she'd start screaming at me.

Like i said, probably not. She'd just whine about how she was forced to be bitter and cold, and how she should be "apathetic" and she'd badmouth some folks (probably me, even if you didn't mention me at all,) and then she'd try to sugar you over. All in all, it wouldn't be too big of a deal. If you want to give her a chance, then go for it! As for me, like I said, I'm not interested in making anymore acquaintences so, whether or not I was personally given a chance would make no difference to me. ^_^ I mean, I like some of the people I meet online, and I dislike others. And then there's LQ. But it doesn't seem practical to go into it with a mindset of giving people a chance. Just by reading things they've written you've already given them that chance, IMO.

>Probably best to say nothing, not respond to her at
>all, unless politeness dictates it. Enh, I don't know.
>She'd probably call this topic an example of someone
>who has too much time on her hands. Me, I call it an
>attempt to explain human nature.

And very interesting, too. ^_^

Tilly

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