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Date Posted: 17:05:23 04/11/03 Fri
Author: Ariana Aislinn
Subject: Personal moral debates

I've been having a debate with myself (aren't those fun?) about how I really feel about LQ and all. I think her fics are hilariously bad, and her rants are rather pathetic. I usually get a good laugh out of most things she writes, or I sit and fume for a little bit.

But I guess I've been wondering if it's really right. This is not a judgment on anyone else here, of course. It's just about how I react to it all. I don't exactly consider myself a gossip. Everything I've heard about LQ, I've attempted to verify, rather than just believing whatever I hear and passing it on, which WOULD count as gossip. So if I'm trying to get an accurate view of how she presents herself to others, what does that make it?

I guess I also wonder about WHAT I read that she said. If it was a public comment, rant, review, or forum post, it's probably fair game. But what about private IM discussions, and stuff like that? I really don't know.

I've been reading some of her standard posts on PR, and she sounds so HUMAN sometimes, if you know what I mean. Like, talking about her bird sitting in her keyboard tray. I was tempted to respond with an anecdote about my parakeet, Twerp. But I guess I'm afraid if I act at all friendly toward her, or even just civil, she's going to go ballistic if and when she realizes I frequent this board and have disapproved of her actions in the past. She might decide that yet another of Tilly's cult followers has betrayed her in an evil and subhuman manner! *GASP!!!* I get the impression that she overreacts to everything. I feel like I should give her a chance, as I've always had a personal policy of judging people based on my experiences of them, not on hearsay or past mistakes...but if I give LQ the benefit of the doubt and treat her as just another person, she might suspect me of dissembling, and for that matter, I might suspect myself of dissembling. It seems somehow hypocritical, doesn't it, to think someone can be a downright jerk, but then to treat them with sugary sweetness when you talk to them?

I guess this is a symptom of a greater moral dilemma I've always had trouble with. What's worse, talking about someone behind their back, or talking about them to their face? I guess the real answer would be not to say negative things about them at all. But which is the lesser of the two evils? Some people would prefer to hear anything bad you have to say about them rather than never know. Some only THINK they'd like to know, but probably would regret hearing it. And is it really right to treat someone with respect in public, but behind closed doors to rant and vent about how much they annoy you? Everyone needs to release steam and work off stress now and then, but I guess I'm wondering if complaining about the person who annoys you is it or not.

I'm not trying to start an argument with anyone really, I'm just trying to raise some interesting points. Let's just say, I had considered telling LQ that I had read her stories and heard the tales about her, but I was going to give her the benefit of the doubt and respect her wishes not to refer to MIL or the name LQ. But I have a feeling that once I even mentioned MIL or Tilly, she'd start screaming at me.

Probably best to say nothing, not respond to her at all, unless politeness dictates it. Enh, I don't know. She'd probably call this topic an example of someone who has too much time on her hands. Me, I call it an attempt to explain human nature.

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