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Date Posted: 13:22:31 02/04/01 Sun
Author: Romy
Subject: Re: Friends in love........
In reply to: Mystic 's message, "Friends in love........" on 08:34:15 02/03/01 Sat

> Well, why is it that you have to see him every
>week? Do you work with him cause if you do that has
>got to be embarassing! I had the same dilema with
>Michael we had two of the same classes together and
>after we broke up we would always see eachother which
>would result in us getting back toghther. But now that
>we are not together and we don't even have any classes
>together we both still make it so that we can see
>eachother for a little while each day. We are both
>pathetic! lol

yeah I work with him...I suspect he makes sure he doesn't work on saturday anymore, cause that's the day I always used to see him there.
>>
>>Floor (Flo, as we nicknamed her) is great--she bought
>>me a big chocolate candy bar to 'comfort me', and
>>she's continuously asking if I'm okay. Which I am, I'm
>>just embarassed.
>
>One time my friend came over with ice cream, soup, and
>sappy love movies to comfort me after one break up
>with Michael.

that's really sweet!
>>
>>Do you still hang out with your ex? As in: are you
>>still friends? That must be so hard, especially if you
>>still love him (I don't know if you do)?
>
> Well, the weird thing about me and my ex
>Michael is that we are still best friends and we are
>both in love with eachother. Yes I love him dearly and
>with all of my heart, and he says he does me and he
>does things to show it, but the problem is that he is
>a 16 yr old boy who just can't hold a commitment. We
>hang out all the time at lunch, and if he doesn't have
>to work he will either come to my house or I will go
>to his. It's just weird........we love eachother so
>much that we can't be torn apart for good.......I mean
>it has already been over a year that I have been
>invloved with him. Sometimes he does the sweetest
>things.......for example: Yesterday I had gotten
>really upset because me and him were supposed to get
>offically back together on our one year anniversary
>date to start over again fresh (which is January 27),
>but he never asked me out that day because he couldn't
>come over and he is the type of person who likes to
>ask questions like that in person. So I was real upset
>all day. Me and Michael share both of our lockers he
>uses mine and I use his. Well my 4th period books are
>in his locker. Well, I was in 4th period chatting with
>some of my friends (2 girls, 1 guy) all about me and
>Mike and everything that has to do with me and Mike,
>so they knew I was upset too. Well towards the end of
>class I open my notebook to take my homework out to
>place in my book (keep in mind this is the first time
>I have opened this notebook) and right there in bright
>red on notebook paper he had written:
>
> "I Love You,
> so be
> Happy, mom to be"
>
>I started crying because it made me so happy because
>of the fact that he thought of me enough to grab my
>folder, open it up and write something in there as a
>surprise for me. That was just the sweetest.
>
That's really sweet.
I dunno, the 'mom to be'???
Are you back together now?
>>
>>What I've been wondering for some time now, why do we
>>fall in love with people who do not love us back? Why
>>do we get attracted to them, if they aren't attracked
>>to us? To use the Cupid metaphor--why does he shoot
>>people without shooting the Significant Other of the
>>person? I mean, it's so pointless.
>
>Well, I know what you mean there........I guess it is
>just supposed to be that we are falling in love with
>all the wrong people. The only explanation I have for
>myself when I am attracted to someone and their
>feelings aren't mutual is that "It just wasn't meant
>to be obviously, because if it was he would feel the
>same way about me." Usually that comforts me.

I get so frustrated at the 'it wasn't meant to be'-part. First of all, I really don't believe some things are, and some things aren't meant to be, I really don't think ANYthing is 'meant to be' for all that matters. Second of all, what's the use of falling for someone if it isn't 'meant to be'?

>>On that same note--why do we get attracted to someone
>>at all? What is it in that person that attracts us?
>>Right now, it seems to me arranged marriaged may be a
>>good solution to a lot of problems...I'm just a little
>>disillusioned with Love right now.
>
>Love sure did hand you the "short end of the stick"
>here in this situation huh? Keep in mind though that
>we have the rest of our lives ahead of us to find the
>"one" for us, but the strange thing is that whenever I
>am with Michael (or not) I always feel like he is the
>"one" and he says the same of me. We both know that we
>are meant for eachother, if only we had met when we
>were older, because then he could handle the
>commitment part.
>>
>>Romy ~taking another bite of that chocolate bar~
>
>Mystic ~about to go and get tested in the game of LOVE~

I just ALWAYS fall for the wrong guys. Dunno, they either don't like me, or like me when I'm over then, or I get attracted to them when they're over me, or they're to young, or to old. Or somehow it just doesn't work out. Take Pascal: he liked me and I liked him--very much. We almost get together at schoolcamp 2 years ago now. It was a weekend and we always were together and pretty close. We never kissed tho. Everyone told me he liked me, and it was pretty clear I liked him to everyone--except to him apparently. After that weekend he pretty much ignored me and I was heart broken. Everyone told me he was crazy about me, but I didn't get why the hell he would ignore me if so.
So, about 6 months later he took me home after this play we had to see for school, and it was about 11, he didn't have to be home until 1 so we just stood talking in front of my house for 2 hours. Eventually we got to talking about THAT weekend, and I told him I was crazy about him then. He told me he liked me too. He told me we probably had still been together if we had got together then. He also told me I was one of the most beautiful girls he'd ever seen (which was after I complained to having to sleep in my brothers room--underneath a HUGE J.LO-poster), and at the end I still suspect he was gonna kiss me, but we ended up kissing eachother -only- at the cheek.
After that, we have been close on and off for another +-18 months. Without ever being actually together. Now he isn't in any of my classes and he doesn't really have the same friends as I do, so I don't see him anymore, I rarele talk to him. Unfortunately. There's some sort of weird tension between us. I still am very much attracted to him. I asked my 'pendel' several times--we're never gonna get together, but we're gonna eventualy hook up for one night, I think/hope that is at a graduation party. That isn't sure of course--divination never is.

Romy

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