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Date Posted: 08:34:15 02/03/01 Sat
Author: Mystic
Subject: Friends in love........
In reply to: Romy 's message, "BIG comfort...." on 13:35:46 01/29/01 Mon

>the Gods up there must get such a kick out of this
>dating-thing. I'm sure Cupid is a very amused lil'
>fella.
>
>Haven't seen Him yet--thank goodness! I'm SO
>embarassed(sp)! I mean, as I'm thinking now, He too
>must be so amused that a 16YO girl fell for him! UGH,
>I swear I can't face him anymore--and I see him every
>week....
Well, why is it that you have to see him every week? Do you work with him cause if you do that has got to be embarassing! I had the same dilema with Michael we had two of the same classes together and after we broke up we would always see eachother which would result in us getting back toghther. But now that we are not together and we don't even have any classes together we both still make it so that we can see eachother for a little while each day. We are both pathetic! lol
>
>Floor (Flo, as we nicknamed her) is great--she bought
>me a big chocolate candy bar to 'comfort me', and
>she's continuously asking if I'm okay. Which I am, I'm
>just embarassed.

One time my friend came over with ice cream, soup, and sappy love movies to comfort me after one break up with Michael.
>
>Do you still hang out with your ex? As in: are you
>still friends? That must be so hard, especially if you
>still love him (I don't know if you do)?

Well, the weird thing about me and my ex Michael is that we are still best friends and we are both in love with eachother. Yes I love him dearly and with all of my heart, and he says he does me and he does things to show it, but the problem is that he is a 16 yr old boy who just can't hold a commitment. We hang out all the time at lunch, and if he doesn't have to work he will either come to my house or I will go to his. It's just weird........we love eachother so much that we can't be torn apart for good.......I mean it has already been over a year that I have been invloved with him. Sometimes he does the sweetest things.......for example: Yesterday I had gotten really upset because me and him were supposed to get offically back together on our one year anniversary date to start over again fresh (which is January 27), but he never asked me out that day because he couldn't come over and he is the type of person who likes to ask questions like that in person. So I was real upset all day. Me and Michael share both of our lockers he uses mine and I use his. Well my 4th period books are in his locker. Well, I was in 4th period chatting with some of my friends (2 girls, 1 guy) all about me and Mike and everything that has to do with me and Mike, so they knew I was upset too. Well towards the end of class I open my notebook to take my homework out to place in my book (keep in mind this is the first time I have opened this notebook) and right there in bright red on notebook paper he had written:

"I Love You,
so be
Happy, mom to be"

I started crying because it made me so happy because of the fact that he thought of me enough to grab my folder, open it up and write something in there as a surprise for me. That was just the sweetest.

>
>What I've been wondering for some time now, why do we
>fall in love with people who do not love us back? Why
>do we get attracted to them, if they aren't attracked
>to us? To use the Cupid metaphor--why does he shoot
>people without shooting the Significant Other of the
>person? I mean, it's so pointless.

Well, I know what you mean there........I guess it is just supposed to be that we are falling in love with all the wrong people. The only explanation I have for myself when I am attracted to someone and their feelings aren't mutual is that "It just wasn't meant to be obviously, because if it was he would feel the same way about me." Usually that comforts me.
>On that same note--why do we get attracted to someone
>at all? What is it in that person that attracts us?
>Right now, it seems to me arranged marriaged may be a
>good solution to a lot of problems...I'm just a little
>disillusioned with Love right now.

Love sure did hand you the "short end of the stick" here in this situation huh? Keep in mind though that we have the rest of our lives ahead of us to find the "one" for us, but the strange thing is that whenever I am with Michael (or not) I always feel like he is the "one" and he says the same of me. We both know that we are meant for eachother, if only we had met when we were older, because then he could handle the commitment part.
>
>Romy ~taking another bite of that chocolate bar~

Mystic ~about to go and get tested in the game of LOVE~

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