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Subject: Re: i cant talk to chicks

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Ellen

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Date Posted: 06:50:12 05/17/05 Tue
In reply to: stanlay 's message, "i cant talk to chicks" on 01:02:17 01/02/05 Sun

Here are some conversation starters:

A smile.

If you can't look a person in the eyes you can always shoot for between the eyebrows. It takes some of the pressure off you and the person still perceives the attention as positive.

Keep your personal space until the other person moves closer. Every culture has a different amount of personal space. I think in America it is about two or three feet.

Grooming, clean and mended are the standards in our household. Designer labeled clothing is not necessary.

Comments on the weather: neutral or positive or negative, you will listen to the response and see if eye contact says to continue.

No judgment comments other than "I" statements like "I like..."

Keep fishing, sometimes it takes a couple opening moves. But if the other person gives two or maybe three negative responses, then quit cheerfully and leave. What is a negative response? Not looking at you. Looking to escape. Moving away. Words that are negative. How to quit cheerfully and leave, "Well, it has been nice to meet you (whether it was or not, you have learned something from the interaction). Have a good day."

Stay away from heavy topics like religion and politics. Maybe you could ask on a voting day if a person got to the polls, but even that is kind of touchy because maybe they didn't!

Food is always a great topic. Everyone eats, some more than others. But if they confess to being on a diet, then switch to carrots and celery or drop the topic if they don't pick up on it.

In every relationship and every conversation there is a pause where each person is deciding if they want to continue with the other person. Allow that pause. To push at this point is not a good idea. You are allowing yourself and the other person an emotional personal space.

Not all girls/women want to be known as chicks. Visions of henpecking and bird lice come to mind. Is that your vision? Change it to something more politically correct. Young lady always works. Person is good. Their name is the best if done with humble respect.

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