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Date Posted: Saturday, July 19, 05:57:00pm
Sitting here perusing the board as I usually do at 1:30 on a Friday night I am in shock and awe at some of the things I have read. There are some messages I simply will not read because I know they will make me physically ill, and I'm not about to put myself in that position, so here's what I have to say.
I competed at Miss Maryland last month. I will not tell you who I am, but it should be pretty easy to figure out. It was my first year in Maryland, though I've had experience competing in other states, and the nastiness that is portrayed by this message board is nothing more than slander put together by those who have nothing better to do after they did not get their way. I did not make the Top 10, but I am not going to sit behind a keyboard and bash an amazing young woman who has worked as long as I have to represent her state at Miss America. It was not the outcome I was hoping for, but I will file my paperwork for my scholarship money and it will be awarded as I request.
When I won my title I was welcomed whole heartedly by not only my local director but also with a personal message from Sherry Rush and other Local EDs, which is something they by no means had to do. I was welcomed by other girls with messages on my Facebook wall and text messages saying how proud they were that I was getting to go to state. These people are a community, a family, and if you speak poorly of one you are speaking poorly of all.
I have dedicated the last half a decade to this organization and wanting to become Miss America, but it will never happen for me. It does not mean I'm going to say that Jade was hand-picked to be Miss Maryland or the system is rigged. I'm not going to accuse girls of bullying and gossiping during Miss Maryland week when it didn't happen. I'm not going to say that the board is corrupt when they are not.
Jade is an intelligent, well spoken, passionate young woman who worked extremely hard to put her best forward for the judges every day and night of competition. There is nobody I would rather see represent Maryland at Miss America in September.
Miss Maryland Week is a lot like a sorority. You gain memories, best friends, sisters, and maybe even a few bridesmaids. But it's true, not everyone is going to get along at all times. There were issues throughout the week, but I'm not sure what you expect from placing 40-someodd girls in close quarters for six straight days. These problems were always resolved and we all remain close friends.
For those of you who sit here and bully or imagine rumors to post: I am ashamed of you. Whether you are a parent, a contestant, or just someone who calls themselves a fan, I am truly ashamed. As a contestant I urge you to step away from the program and remind yourself why you came to it in the first place. Nobody is making you stay, if you do not enjoy it, then please, I urge you, walk away.
There is nothing more heartbreaking than coming onto a board and seeing my sisters called obese or not in shape. It is important to remember that there is a large difference in "pageant girl" fit and "actual" fit. Not everyone is built the same, and while you may not have guessed it from the audience, I was clinically underweight at Miss Maryland to get the best possible swimsuit score I could. It is very easy to cause an eating disorder with just words, especially for young women who wear swimsuits with such standards put upon them. I know because it has happened to me.
I pray you read these words and take them to heart. These have not been easy to type, especially knowing in the back of my mind that readers will be picking their brains to decide who they come from. If you decide this is too much for you to read, I leave you with one thought: If you don't have anything nice (or constructive) to say, don't say anything at all.
Forever a Member of the Miss Maryland 2014 Class
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- You know, I could possibly believe everything you say. Almost. The line about filing for your scholarship and it will be paid, that is where you lost me. You obviously have not had to go through what COUNTLESS other past contestants have and I truly hope you don't. They can really give you the run around and just not take the time to write the check in the so-called 30 days that they request. If you do get it, consider yourself very lucky and take your money and run. If you don't, be prepared to hound them for every nickle you have earned. (NT) -- Truly am glad your experience was positive, but good luck getting your money., Sunday, July 20, 02:38:58am
- If everyone left there happy and friends you wouldn't have rebuttals. -- Annon and annoyed, Sunday, July 20, 06:09:40am
- If you follow the rules, you should not have difficulty getting your scholarship award. You must have all of your local money paid to you before you request your state money. Many dlo not realize this and then it just takes longer. (NT) -- Get your request together aith proof that you have received your local money. Request where your check should be sent, school or loan. Good luck., Sunday, July 20, 06:39:05am
- Re: Message from a Contestant -- Class of 2005, Sunday, July 27, 03:29:06pm