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Date Posted: 09:40:32 10/13/03 Mon
Author: kyser
Subject: I understand Bren
In reply to: bren 's message, "spags....don't go" on 18:20:45 10/12/03 Sun

sorry for the delay on my comment here, I've been out of town for a funeral.
OK, here's the thing, when a woman is married to a good man, as I'm assuming your Bob is, she loves him and all and that's great. But, sometimes someone comes along who grabs your interest, inspires you, or just makes you wonder what if. First of all, this is completely normal. But what you have to consider is this--do you really want him or do you simply like the idea of getting this seemingly unattainable man? Would you still be so attracted once you see that he has faults too? He's not nearly as perfect up close as he is when held at a distance. It always feels good to know that someone finds you interesting and attractive, as it seems this fellows finds you. And for some reason the attraction is so much stronger when you think you couldn't possible get the guy. Bottom line--You COULD get him, that's not even in question here, but once you did,(and I'm not saying you would do this but let's face it we all have crushes married or not) would you want him once you had him??? Probably not--that's the problem with these infatuations we get, we base them on what few minor facts we've collected about someone and then throw them up on a pedestal. If this sounds like criticism Bren, it's not --I've been in your shoes before--and once I found out I could have any of the guys I wanted, I just didn't want them anymore. My heart is home with my husband, but there's nothing wrong with making a new friend or FLIRTING!! Flirting is healthy and relatively harmless. Please let me know what happens and if you need to talk just let me know, I've been through this exact thing before!!

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thanks kyser...... -- bren, 08:42:04 10/15/03 Wed
- I think.. -- kyser, 10:05:55 10/15/03 Wed
  - take care spags -- sharon, 18:11:21 10/16/03 Thu
    - Fantasy is better -- Chel, 23:10:43 10/18/03 Sat