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Subject: Re: Finally admitted to it


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Heather
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Date Posted: 16:02:53 02/16/07 Fri
In reply to: Tammy 's message, "Re: Finally admitted to it" on 12:33:15 02/15/07 Thu
 Maybe she isn't ready and you pushing her to do something she isn't ready for is going to cause her to tell you lies that maybe she doesn't want to tell you. Sometimes it is better to just let go and let it happen in its own time.
You know, my ex sent me roses for Valentines Day- out of guilt I am sure. I don't say a thing to him anymore. I rarely ever speak to him. He also sent a letter to my son about oh how he misses him and blah blah blah. Well when I spoke to him about visits and is he clean and if he is we can arrange to meet and I can be the judge of that - he said he doesn't want to ruin our sons life. He is still using and nothing will change that until he changes it himself. Of course he says he is clean but cannot remember for how long. He cannot even remember the last time he saw our son. I asked him how long it would take him to get to my house to see our son and he said I don't know. I said, I'm not going to play games with you, how long will it take you to get to my house? A little frustrated he said, Heather I don't know how long it will take me to get from here to your house. hmmm he works right up the road, he knows how long it takes. He just isn't really interested in seeing him. He writes these things when he is sad and coming down, but last evening he was in the seeking stage. I can tell because he was getting frustrated at me and I haven't talked to him in so long, what did I do to him? Nothing - he is in the cycle that is discussed in the Helpful Tips.
Anyhow - he will either continue this or miss his son so much he quits. His choice - Not mine and not our sons choice. Same with you and your situation.
I hope something here helped you.
Heather
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