VoyForums
[ Show ]
Support VoyForums
[ Shrink ]
VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, [2], 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 ]
Subject: Heather


Author:
Shari
 		[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]
Date Posted: 08:27:48 02/26/07 Mon
 I just read your posts about how you're doing in response to Susan asking under Sad's posts (did we follow that?).

I know exactly where you are coming from. It is so dang confusing. So many emotions. Anger of the past. Fear of it happening all over again. What to do; what to do?

When I was at that point, trying to make the decision to move forward or to stand by him....I asked God what I should do. I asked Him, and asked Him. Of course, God didn't work in the time frame I wanted Him too....so I then asked Him to show me what he wanted me to do in ways more clear for me to understand because I had missed any of His answers if they had come...

While I was waiting for God to show me what he wanted, my emotions had decided to move on...in fact, when God told me to give him one more chance...I was ticked...I didn't want to. There was so much pain in the past that I wondered how I could get past it. There is only one way...you have to forgive him. It is amazing how much of the pain you have that goes away as soon as you do forgive him.

So...whether or not you are going to have him in your life or if you are going to move on (ask God for guidance and specific signs on this), you do need to forgive him for your own healing.

Nothing can change the past...no I'm sorry's or anything that happens. So you have to let it go. Heal. Only the future can change.

Shawn is on a tight leash here, but he is doing it. He is doing it because he is humble about what has happened and knows that this is the only way we can remain a family until my trust is back. I have forgiven him, but getting back trust is another issue and is slow in coming.

Continue with your divorce procedings....if it is meant to be, and God shows you the signs...you can always remarry Spencer. Spencer shouldn't get mad at you for being suspicious because it is his actions that brought them on. If he expects immediate trust....and is not humble... I wouldn't believe him... but... as I said, ask God. Ask God continueously until He answers. Wait for God's answer, and try not to be impatient. He does not foresake us.
[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Replies:
Subject Author Date
Re: Heathersusan09:53:54 02/26/07 Mon

[ Contact Forum Admin ]

Forum timezone: GMT-8
VF Version: 3.00b, ConfDB:
Before posting please read our privacy policy.
VoyForums(tm) is a Free Service from Voyager Info-Systems.
Copyright © 1998-2019 Voyager Info-Systems. All Rights Reserved.