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Subject: Re: Sad Grandmother

Author:
Shari

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Date Posted: 01:52:35 03/10/07 Sat
In reply to: LUCY 's message, "Re: Sad Grandmother" on 22:40:59 03/09/07 Fri

Lucy, you did not fail your daughter. Don't let her drug use guilt you into that...I speak as an ex-drug user. In my lifetime, I have done pot, speed, meth, coke, and actually got hooked on acid. Absolutely NONE of my drug use was a result of lack of parenting or love from my parents, but rather a social need for a tremendous rush.

In your prayers, pray for your daughter's redemtion for her child's sake...it helped me quite a bit while praying for my husband for his children's sake.

I have no clue what it is like to have a child that is an addict. My boys are only 1 and 2, and have not walked me down a whole lot of heartaches yet. I do know what you mean when you say her pain is your pain. The hardest thing in the world is to see someone you love hurt, and not be able to do a darn thing about it....and twice the pain when it is your child.

Do know that prayer and tough love is the key. Although very hard to do, tough love is necessary. Anything you do to help her enables her and keeps her from hitting her rock bottom.

Your priority now is your grandchild and the rest of your family. Your daughter's addiction will tear your family apart if you let it; thus you must not get involved in her drama.

One thing you didn't mention that we've heard before is the fear of raising a grandchild due to your age (not knowing how old you are, but a grandmother usually is old enough to be frightened of raising young ones). I am adding this because I am 44 and my children are 1 and 2. I am old enough to be their grandmother. With God, all things are possible!

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: Sad Grandmother	Lucy	11:43:16 03/10/07 Sat
Re: Sad Grandmother -- Shari, 15:37:43 03/11/07 Sun Re: Sad Grandmother -- Heather, 21:06:58 03/11/07 Sun