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Subject: Re: wants help, now what?


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Heather
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Date Posted: 21:41:23 11/19/06 Sun
In reply to: D 's message, "wants help, now what?" on 11:58:59 11/19/06 Sun
 He needs to locate a program. He needs to start, not you. If you do it for him, he will not stay clean. Let him do it himself. He is capable just as we are. Don't be is crutch because he will just weigh you down more and more each time. He has to find his own strength, you cannot give him yours. You can support his decision to get clean but allow him to make the phone calls, allow him to get where he needs to go to get the help, allow him to make his own choices because in the end if you make all the choices for him and do it all for him, he will not appreciate it as if he did it himself. Its the truth, so don't chance it because he tells you he needs you to do it. Trust someone who made all the mistakes already-ME. Only he can do this for himself and you can say " Good for you honey, you're doing an awesome job" But only if he really is doing an awesome job.
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Heather
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