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Subject: Re: It Ends when you let Go...

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Shelly

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Date Posted: 15:42:11 08/11/06 Fri
In reply to: Been There 's message, "Re: It Ends when you let Go..." on 10:15:00 08/09/06 Wed

Realizing it ends when you let go is one thing -actually letting go is quite another! My ex is now trying to go behind my back to get in touch with his daughter. He is blocking his # and calling her on her cell and at our home mid-day when he knows I am at work. She is not answering, but this puts her in a very difficult situation. His mother who has been keeping me in the loop somewhat (told me they did an intervention) has now stopped -she said that her son has asked her to not discuss him with me. I am furious! He is unwilling and unable to do so and now there is no one to help me in what to expect or how to answer my daughter when she asks? I guess he is doing some sort of treatment out of town right now - but no one will tell me for sure. I sent the mom an email explaining all we have been through with her son -and how all of the hurt and damange done is to yoiur granddaughter more than anyone else. Long story short-I ended it with "I tried, it's too hard". I know she is upset -but SO AM I!! I have to start standing MY ground and no longer be the nice guy here! His whole family is going to see a different Shelly!! This unhealthiness I have endured is more stressful than when this man had nothing to do with his daughter the first 10 yrs of her life! I'm taking back the control that I should have never let go of! It is hard -and will only get harder as I know he will get out of treatment and want and expect everything to go back to normal -see his daughter-have her stay with him-and expect me to allow him back in. Not this time! It is going to be difficult. I wish he would just go away -but I know he won't and once off drugs he is going to be relentless in his pursuit of wanting to see his daughter -a daughter that isn't entirely sure she even wants him in her life anymore. It is going to get even more difficult and I will need all of your strength, wisdom, and guidence to remain strong as we all know how darn pursuading these guys can be, especially straight out of treatment when they are consumed with guilt and remorse!!
Heather -keep up the strength!!

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Re: It Ends when you let Go...	Heather	16:47:19 08/11/06 Fri