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Subject: Re: Long response.thank you all for your support

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Heather

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Date Posted: 14:22:06 08/21/06 Mon
In reply to: Shelly 's message, "Re: Long response.thank you all for your support" on 13:57:54 08/21/06 Mon

No i'm not offended, just hurt cause you are right. But I have been saying that in my posts. I am having a hard time letting go and yes it's because of what and who he used to be but then I think back and is it really that? Cause I even deserved much more than that. Yes I am lonely and the little bit of attention from the man that I still love keeps giving me hope. After all this time - there has to be someone out there for me. I date but I know I date all the wrong people so I stopped dating. I am hoping to meet someone at this new church that I am attending. That is where I need to be meeting someone. This way they see me for who I am, a single hard working mom with 2 boys. I never want to mis-lead anyone in to thinking that I worth less than I am. Or mis lead anyone in to thinking I want anything less than what I really want. So yes I think I have been holding on to the feelings that I have for my soon to be EX Husband because I haven't found that again and we have been apart for 17 months now. I counted this weekend. That is long enough for me to get over him and when he is not around I am over him but when the phone calls start coming in - that's when I start breaking. I start listening to his sweet words - that lack the action. He actually called my work today since I wouldn't answer the phone yesterday and he wants to know when he needs to show up for the court date, where, and when. WHAT? is he serious? I think he is completely insane. Doesn't he know that the courts would have sent him that information if he was invited? He thinks I am just going to hand out that information to him after I have come this far? NO WAY.
SO I have two days down on not answering his calls and I intend to keep it up and get stronger. I need to learn the word NO and my EX go in the same sentence.
This time I did better than before because I let him call, but did not let him come over and since he wouldn't talk when I needed to talk about his plans - I told him I wasn't interested. blah blah blah. So that self love and respect thing came in to play. =)I have needs and wants and he obviously doesn't care about them nor does he care about my boys' needs or wants, only his own. He shows no respect for us at all. NONE. I see that. I really do. He is so sick and I see that as well. I really can't wait to stand in front of the judge and get this over with. I know it won't be over, but there will be orders and that will be refreshing.
Thanks for your concerns and your support. I do need to hear everything and anything from those that I am trailing right behind. If you've been there and you see that I can learn something from it now - tell me. I want to know - I need to know. If you can give me any advice on the court situation - tell me that as well. What I need to bring , say...whatever. Any advice is useful.

Thanks so much.
Heather

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: Long response.thank you all for your support	Dawn (catching up.....)	21:17:20 08/22/06 Tue
DAWN -- Heather, 22:07:41 08/23/06 Wed