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Subject: Mothers day events


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Date Posted: 09:37:28 05/26/06 Fri
 I haven't posted for awhile but thought I would caught you all up on things. For those of you who don't know I am in the middle of adopting my granddaughter. We go to court on July 11th to see if they are going to terminate my daughter's parental rights. The first court date was to see if my gd's parents would show up to fight the adoption and sure enough both my daughter and my gd's bio dud showed up. The bio dud hasn't paid child support for over two years, hardly sees her at all unless his mom takes her to see him and he still had the nerve to show up in court. And sure enough since he doesn't have a job and can't afford a lawyer they gave him a court appointed lawyer. I just don't get the court system?

Anyways...of course they are both mad and will not talk to either my husband or I. My daughter is claiming that we abused her when she was younger and is making all kinds of accusations...I expected this. What I didn't expect was for her to call me on Mother's Day to see if she could see her daughter. I agreed to meet her at the park so she could see her. Before we got there she showed up at my mother in law's (she lives by the park)...this is a week after she made all the accusations...and told my mother in law how much she has changed and that she is getting an apartment and she is working two jobs. I'm surprised that she had the nerve to show up there because in the past she used my mother in law and broke her heart. What I really didn't expect is for her to give me a mothers day card. In it she wrote "God works in wonderous ways". I guess she is wanting me to know that she is trying to change. I let my gd give her a photo frame with a photo of them together.

Now she is showing up at our house without any notice...with her new live-in boyfriend. She has came twice and only stays for about 20 min at the most and then leaves. I told her that she is going to have to make arrangements to see her because it is too hard on her daughter when she just shows up for just a few min. and then leaves.

I don't know what to think. I expected for her to be mad and not talk to me after we filed for adoption. I would love to think that she really is changing and that maybe she could be a mother to her child but I just don't know. I have seen her "clean up" so many times only to go back to the drugs just a few months later. I know that if she really did have God in her life she could make it, but as far as being responsible for her child I just don't see that happening. She can not hold a job longer then 2 months at a time and for almost two years now she has moved from house to house, never having one of her own. I just wish I could have more faith in her. I feel guilty for not believing everything she says but I know deep in my heart that this will only last for a little while.

Sorry I went on so long but I just had to get this out.
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Re: Mothers day eventsHulalea12:21:26 05/26/06 Fri
Re: Mothers day eventsHeather14:58:41 06/07/06 Wed

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