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Subject: Re: Question for Heather


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Shari
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Date Posted: 10:03:14 04/19/06 Wed
In reply to: Heather 's message, "Re: Question for Heather" on 12:58:36 04/17/06 Mon
 OK...I asked that question because I thought perhaps your child was young enough that he won't remember the trama daddy is causing, and many times, young children don't understand therapy and think they have done something wrong to end up in therapy.

I am not you, but if I was, I would not take the child into therapy, but remove the child from what is causing the bad behavior. At this point in time, my son is only two, but there is definitely a bad behavior pattern that happens when there is communication from his father...hence, his father can no longer communicate with him. It has been since January since his father talked to him, and we've finally enjoyed three weeks worth of good behavior. I was stupid enough to give him the birthday card his dad sent and we had bad behavior for one night only.

I know how hard it is to let go of the one we love but lost to the addiction, and even harder to be the one to make the decision for the other parent to not be in the child's life. But our children are showing us how the addicted parent being in their lives affects them, and it is not good. I for one am making the ultimate of hard decisions to remove the addicted parent from my children's lives until he has proven to be clean and gone through treatment.

May God help us all!
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