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Date Posted: 08:16:59 03/28/06 Tue
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Distraught Mom
's message, "Re: Son is "Lost". A Mom's Blog" on 17:42:58 03/27/06 Mon
Learning about addiction will help to ease your mind. Learning how to detach and knowing their use is not your fault and you have the right to live and enjoy your life without feeling guilty. I have taken both of the supplements below and they did help for a while. Good Luck.
5-HTP:
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Becalm’d
http://www.adhd-becalmd.com/orders.php?id=19529
Rock Bottom From the “Helpful Tips” post: Good Luck
* This is a great post written by Angie in KCI message board. IT IS A LESSON WHY FAMILY MEMBERS NEED TO KNOW THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO UNTIL THEY HIT ROCK BOTTOM AND NEED TO NOT LET IT DRIVE YOU CRAZY AND LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE. Good Luck.
ROCK BOTTOM, BY ANGIE.
We see on here all the time "ROCK BOTTOM"
Loved ones come on here and find out their loved ones need to hit "ROCK BOTTOM" they learn to quit enabling them..in order for them to hit this "ROCK BOTTOM" ....
it i have noticed that sometimes in peoples post you can almost hear the anticipation in them... or feel them looking intently at their loved ones ... investigating ...wondering and hopeful ...."ARE THEY THERE YET " " IS THIS ROCK BOTTOM" .... the thing though is sad as it may be ....You can't see "ROCK BOTTOM" is an inside deal ... It just is ...
You cringe in pain and wince at the misery you see them causing themseleves ... thinking ..
"OKAY THIS HAS GOT TO BE IT " "THEY HAVE TO BE THERE NOW" ..... but what would appear to be the Bottom of all Bottoms to most normal people ... Most times is no where Near close to being one for us ADDICTS ....
We can loose jobs, husbands, wives, cars, freedom, get deathly sick, be homeless, .... and still we will hang in there ...Most times the idea that MAYBE our using has anything to do with all of our Troubles doesn't even occur to us ....
I am posting this ... because I can feel you guys out there ...sitting back with these hopeful hearts ... on the edge of your seats waiting to catch them when they fall... and You guys end up sitting there on the EDGE for SUCH a long time ...
You'll Never see the Bottom ... You just wont ...
It's almost like a watched pot never Boils.. or something like that ....
Its pains me to know that you guys are all caring way more about this then they are ...and I am in no way saying that you shouldn’t ...
I am just letting you know when they finally do hit there "ROCK BOTTOM" its not gonna be anything you'll be able to see... its when they are finally empty inside.... this drug is evil ... and it will take everything you have got ... and then some ... and the screwed up thing is we just keep giving it....
There is life after METH.... and I have never felt more alive in my life ... life is so brand new to me ...and I have hope for all of your loved ones that one day they'll get here too ...
But keep in mind ... it took me 10 years .. Of all sorts of misery before ... I got to where I am now ... 10 years....
I am so grateful to each and everyone of you who posts about your daughters, sons, wives, husbands ... who are using ... I come here and if I am feeling weak ever or having any doubts about being sober ... .I find strength in reading your posts ... and knowing I never want to do this to my family...My mother, my brother, my nieces ... ever again.... So I thank you....
Just remember Take time for you ... let them go and do this on there own ... when they hit there bottom ... they will take the action needed to climb out of it..... But it has to be their idea.... no lecturing, or talking, or begging and pleading is gonna get them there ...
Take time for you...
Angie that was a great post for family members. You need to save yourself, live your own life and know it is not your fault. There is nothing you can do but just be there to listen to your loved one that is an addict when they need to talk. Learn as much as you can about this drug so they don’t manipulate you, or become an enabler. Also so you know when they scream, yell, and, blame you for everything you know it is the addict talking not your loved one. Good Luck.
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