| Subject: Yesterday was strangely nice--I think |
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Date Posted: 18:42:23 04/03/06 Mon
I've been posting about my son on Meth who knows I've been wanting to talk to him, but hasn't called since December. I also have a daughter who has had many 2 or 3 day "crack holidays" in the last 6 years, but has been good for the past year. Thank God! After some suspicious calls from her, then her boyfriend, I found out she was at the bar. BAD NEWS. The crack binges always start that way. I thought I'd die. A few minutes later she called and asked me to come to the bar. This was new. When I got there she was with her boyfriends sister and their friend. She got up and brought me a beer and said , "Mom, I 'm not going to take off. I'm done with that. I don't ever want to go there again. Just sit here and talk to me." We hung out for almost 3 hours talking about lots of stuff but mostly her home life. She's in a bad relationship with a controlling, degrading guy who just wants her to be sober, ( me too) take care of the 3 kids, work 12 hour days, clean, cook, basically do everything by herself AND have sex whenever he wants it while he smokes dope, drinks with his buddies, watches sports (not at home, and if at home his friends all hang out there doing the same) and oh yeah, lets not forget fishing! But he doesn't ever do anything wrong-- just ask him! " She's the crack whore", bla, bla, bla. I must say I'd probably smoke crack if I lived with him. Why does she stay? After one of her binges he convinced her to sign papers giving him primary custody, so she feels it's the only way to be with her kids. There has to be a better way. He's also physically abusive. He couldn't do it by himself, but uses the kids to keep her there. Anyway, she stayed with me, and everytime her phone rang she'd say, " I'll bet that's Matty calling--I just know he's gonna call me tonight. I can just feel it". Matt is my son we haven't heard from for so long. We just wanted to hear his voice so badly. I took her home, then went home myself, said my prayers and went to sleep. The phone woke me up about 12:30. It was Matt! I was so shook up I could hardly talk! My daughter had woke up sick and decided to call a number she had gotten from someone and Matt answered. Then he called me. He admitted he was using, but said it wasn't as bad as what I was hearing and that he was ok. I'm smart enough to know any use is bad enough, but I must say I was thrilled to hear from him. He told me he was sorry but that it had just been so long he felt stupid calling now. That's 3 people he's called in a few days. He didn't ask for anything, just wanted to hear our voices too, maybe. Even said he would like us to come visit. He doesn't have anywhere for us to stay (?!) but would like to see us. As crazy as this sounds, it seems like he's reaching out--finally. I won't send money but I'll talk to him everyday if I can. He admitted being in violation of probation, so I told him to contact his PO and try to work things out. I hope he does. So, I had a couple drinks in a bar with my daughter--never thought I'd say that--and she went home! My son who's been told to call his mother 50 times, finally calls me after 4 months. I don't know what's up with the universe, but this gives me hope in some strange way. I guess he does still think of us. Thank God. It's a start, I guess. Still praying for us! And to top it off, she had gotten the flu from the kids and her boyfriend wouldn't help her so mom to the rescue @ 1 AM with 7-up and flu meds. I need to thank God and go to bed!
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