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Subject: very unpleasant verbal abuse going on.. ???.. don't know what to do.......?????/ Author: nancy [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 16:49:41 03/03/06 Fri Hi All: You are all so much wiser than I in this area... my apologies for asking probably really dumb questions here.. please bear with me...... My son has been doing the "usual" sleeping it off..not so much as a peep out of him since yesterday am..He's finally starting to get up and move about.. and I guess as long as it's all going his way..moment to moment..it's not great .. but understandable....the one damn thing I have learned is to say as little as necessary until about day 3...So far today...he has contacted his d/a counsellor who has made a time to see him next Fri. to see what options are available for him to get into recovery.. I have no words to say how good that makes me feel... having said that.. the caveat is that I will believe it when I see it.. but.. at least that's where it's at right now... I go out to do some shopping ..come back.. making soup..I have to ask him what the directions are because I can no longer read very small printing.....he explains it to me.. I didn't quite catch it.. asked him again.. noticed the edge coming into his voice... so I listened again........and... then went to do it......FOR HIM.. by the way...it's one of those "no nutrition" noodle thingys.. I dropped the package of whatever it is that flavours the soup... made a joke about having done that.. and.. he went ballistic...literally out of nowhere........his verbal garbage seems to come from a place I've never ever seen/heard.. he's not like that AT ALL when he's not using..........no big whoop.......just another great moment in my/our life.. he then throws the tv remote against the wall.......calls me stuff that I haven't heard in many years.. all these "come downs" aside......just took my breath away.. and as I have said.. I've worked with street youth at risk.. I'm pretty sure I've heard it all......gets up .. storms out of the living room.. relocates on his foamy on the floor in my bedroom.......nothing..nada.. not even a look of anything.........his body is all tense/he's SO looking for a very good fight......challenged me again.. about four times.............I told him I would not buy into it.. and..when he's feeling "ever so much better".. then I would talk to him.. not now.. not soon.. as far as I can see..........and I am so unbelievably angry.. SO ANGRY.. I "understand/empathize".. truly I do.. but.. I don't deserve this.. I just don't............I am sitting here crying.. and I've never felt so close to just booking out of here............and..no.. it's not because of his most recent "disrespectful" stuff.........Trust me.. I don't offend easily.........this is just the drug-sick "shit" that I guess we have all heard........(my apologies to the wonderful people on this site if I shouldn't say that word).. I don't normally.................. I am just so damn angry/tired and.. feeling very very just out of resources right now.............. When I read other people's issues.. I feel as though mine are so totally lame.. but.. I've done the "he's been in jail/he's in someone's emerg... because he o/d.. he's in someone's emerg. because he's had the crap beaten out of him.............pretty much the whole gamut that I know of..............................I don't know why this has hit so hard right just at this minute.........and I'm not even sure what I'm asking for here......... I JUST SO DON'T DESERVE TO BE SCREAMED AT LIKE THAT.. I just don't.............. Sorry to waste your time...........I just had to write.....As I said .. we have no family persay.......just all his friends who.. with the exception of one.. who is not a user........have pretty much written him off........I got butkus..........me and my rather elderly..loving but fairly demented kitties.......who.. truly could care less.......... Anyhow........thank you................so much Love and Peace [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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Subject Author Date Re: very unpleasant verbal abuse going on.. ???.. don't know what to do.......?????/ Hulalea 17:41:30 03/03/06 Fri Re: very unpleasant verbal abuse going on.. ???.. don't know what to do.......?????/ SUSAN F 17:53:41 03/03/06 Fri Re: very unpleasant verbal abuse going on.. ???.. don't know what to do.......?????/ -- Debbie, 18:38:11 03/07/06 Tue