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Subject: Re: married (yet single) mother of three


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Heather
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Date Posted: 19:29:09 03/12/06 Sun
In reply to: joy 's message, "married (yet single) mother of three" on 19:02:29 03/11/06 Sat
 All those questions and one answer. His use is not your problem and not your fault.
You know I learned that after awhile, I was contributing to his use by argueing with him and so I finally decided that even talking to him was USLESS. He wasn't going to change until he decided enought was enough. He's gone and I finally will not have anything to do with him. If he wants anything from me and the boys he will figure it out, but we aren't sitting here waiting for him or wasting our lives because he decides to waste his. If he is staying clean and makes that decision to not go back to using for good, he will change his ways and show us. I am not waiting though. If I meet someone else, then great, if not, then great also. I am living my life with my children and I do not miss the tension, the pain, the worry, the wonder. It hurts butthe pain is now buried deep and hopefully it will heal one day. I remember how painful all my decisions were, but now I sit back and wonder why I didn't Block him out of our lives a long time ago.

We did talk the other day and he said he sees that I am sticking to my boundaries. And by the GRACE OF GOD, yes I am . I have to. I don't like feeing insane and crazy. I am not an addict and I will not be taken down by one any longer. It's easier said than done, but if you start by setting boundaries and sticking to them, it eventually works.

I hope you can find the strength to do what is best for YOU and the KIDS.
Heather
Be sure to pray
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Re: married (yet single) mother of threeKIM06:59:17 03/14/06 Tue
    Re: married (yet single) mother of threekayla15:36:11 03/14/06 Tue

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