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Subject: Re: ? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS

Author:
Shari

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Date Posted: 11:26:23 03/29/06 Wed
In reply to: KIM 's message, "? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS" on 20:18:04 03/28/06 Tue

At the end, you said that perhaps your kids being bad and mean to you might be in part that dad is not there. In our home, it is totally and only because dad is not here. My spouse is the addict and is in prison right now so the boys don't get to see him or even talk to him. My toddler has four phases he goes through with every "loss" of his father (which is caused by many things...even hearing someone else cry out the word daddy). The third phase lasts the longest and it is where he misbehaves and treats me like dirt.

If they were mad at you at all, that was gone within a couple of weeks. The misbehaving now is more than likely 100% because dad is not there, and you are the only one they have to take that out on. Get used to it...throughout their lives, mom is the one that gets all their frustrations...we did it to our parents and now it is being done to us. Just know, that once you are a grandma...they will finally understand and appreciate all that we were for them.

Don't have so much remorse for the neglect of your children. I do not use, and there are days when I can't take them any more and they spend most of their time in their rooms...my inhome counselors I had told me that was the best way for me to take five...so I was congratulated for ignoring my children.

What counts is that you are back and there for them now. Good luck and God bless, and three hundred cheers for you for getting clean and being clean today! *tossing hat in the air*

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Re: ? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS	jen	15:26:12 03/29/06 Wed