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? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS

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KIM

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Date Posted: 20:18:04 03/28/06 Tue

PLEASE HELP! I am on week 8 of being clean from crack -cocaine and meth and I am very proud of myself for that. However I am going through a great deal of remorse for the person I was to my kids ( I never did it in front of them nor was I the type to sell my stuff for drugs we have a nice home always fed and clothed well ) but I wasn't mom, they lost me somewhere along the line by simply not being there for them emotionally etc. who wants to take the kids to the park while they are high I know i never did. They saw their father and I fight alot they have seen him abuse me physically emotionally and very verbally alot and they have seen the same from me as well although I feel when they saw it from me I was provoked many times.Our using has had a very big impact on them and they don't know why! Now for past 2 months the kids and i are on our own and I am left to pick up the pieces of our broken home! My kids are lashing out at me badly some days are worse than others.TODAY was not a good day for me. Most times I want to call their dad but then i think what is the sense (he is still using) he says not, BUT REALLY, who does think he is fooling BIG DUMB DUMB I've only been gone 2 months does he forget that I went down the road of addiction with him He just talks on the phone and i know he is high Anyway when he sees the kids he is god they do lots when they are with daddy now and i don't get that when we were together he (we) didn't do anything cause we couldn't afford it because come payday money was gone for dope or we'd be to busy getting high or coming down and so on u know what i'm getting at. for the first time in a long time i am noticing my kids I'm listening and "PAYING ATTENTION" to my kids and now i am seeing the things i neglected to do for them as a parent. My kids are 8 and 5 They don't even remember THE REAL ME! They never got that chance to know the real me! They will I know but how do I deal with all these emotions now? How do I fix the things I messed up with them? How do I get them to stop being so angry with me? (I know alot of that probably has to do with daddy not being here)

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: ? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS	SUSAN F	21:18:26 03/28/06 Tue
Re: ? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS -- cindy, 06:14:22 03/29/06 Wed
Re: ? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS	Shari	11:26:23 03/29/06 Wed

Re: ? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS	jen	15:26:12 03/29/06 Wed

Re: ? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS	Melinda	16:38:30 03/29/06 Wed