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Subject: Re: ? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS Author: Melinda [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 16:38:30 03/29/06 Wed In reply to: KIM 's message, "? - TO RECOVERING ADDICTS ABOUT KIDS" on 20:18:04 03/28/06 Tue It takes time. I know that is frustrating, but, you didn't get into this mess overnite, it took time. However kids are pretty resilent, and after a while of them seeing you trying to change the past, they will start to trust you and not resent you as much. You kids don't hate you, they are just confused as to why things keep changing, life for you and them before was unpredictable, now it is up to you to set an example and make things as scheduled as possible. Just keep your boundaries with them and make sure they know you are in charge now. Even still almost 2 years later, my kids still remember, what and who I used to be. If I go out and don't come home when I say, they are calling everyone they know to see if they know where mom is. And when I come home they are looking for signs of me being high. You have to take this one day at a time, and on same days it is one hour or one minute at a time. It is hard, but remember in the end it is all worth it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and you will see things start to improve. The guilt will start to diminish. Melinda [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]