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Date Posted: Wed, 01/29/03 3:56pm
Author: lagirl
Subject: What's it like, having older parents?
In reply to: tash"ana 's message, "Re: La girl" on Wed, 01/29/03 1:32am

Tash"ana--

Well, even though you and both may have misunderstood the original question on this thread, I would still like to hear your insights on what it was like having older parents.

Keeping in mind that so few observations are not statistically significant, let me tell you about three families I've known:

1. Father in his 50s, mother in her 40s--had one child, a daughter. I knew the daughter in college. She was sweet, smart and just all around one of the nicest people I have ever met. Not spoiled at all, she was very close to her parents, and yet they encouraged her independence. They definitely got an A+++ for parenting.

2. Father around 63, mother 45--one child, a son. The son was a mess. A very intelligent but low-achieving, drug-abusing, alcoholic mess, plus he was completely spoiled. He sunk even lower recently when his father died--son was 22 at the time, father was around 85. The son always complained that his parents were way too old, that they had no energy for anything. Once he left for college, they moved into a retirement home, so that when he came home to visit, he had to stay in the retirement home with a bunch of old folks.

3. Father 55, mother 45--this was a first marriage for the mother, second family for the father. They had one daughter. The father admits that he virtually ignored his 4 sons from his first marriage while they were growing up because he was so focused on his career. So he retired when the daughter was born and made her the center of his life. You might expect her to be spoiled rotten, but actually she is a really sweet, high-achieving young lady. And despite his age [he must be in his early 70s now] he is still high-energy so I never heard any complaints about the parents not being able to keep up.

But Tash--these are just outsider observations by me. So what was it like, having older parents?
lagirl

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Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- kangi, Thu, 01/30/03 1:53am
Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- CaseynGeneva, Fri, 01/31/03 8:34am
- Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- tash"ana, Sat, 02/ 1/03 5:34pm
  - Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- sunny, Sat, 02/ 1/03 6:51pm
    - Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- tash"ana, Sat, 02/ 1/03 7:34pm
      - Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- kangi, Sat, 02/ 1/03 8:40pm
        Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- CaseynGeneva, Sat, 02/ 1/03 9:05pm
      - Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- Bella, Sun, 02/ 2/03 10:20am
  - Re: What's it like, having older parents? -- CaseynGeneva, Sat, 02/ 1/03 8:52pm