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Emily
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Date Posted: 22:58:33 07/22/04 Thu
In reply to:
Glenn
's message, "Re: Lack of spousal support" on 16:14:50 07/22/04 Thu
What exactly bothers the spouses? Is it the cost? Or just the asthetics? I guess I just find it hard to understand from another person's point of view. I mean, I was really self-conscious myself for getting them at first, but that is because we are always more critical of ourselves. My husband says it doesn't bother him at all and even though he likes to make fun of me when after dinner I try to get food out of my teeth, he thinks it is funny but cute. Maybe because he went through braces himself in highschool, when he was a full-blown teenager and still remembers what it felt like, so he is extra supportive of my decision. But like for my mom she seemed more concerned for me about the way it looks because for her, she always had straight teeth and the idea of getting braces as an adult would horrify her. I understand it form both points of view but I think if spouses can just accept it, or least pretend to, it makes living with braces so much easier!
woa, I never really post on this site but just felt like this is a really important issue...it's hard enough as it is on one's self eseteem to get braces as an adult initially, if you don't have someone there to tell you that you are beautiful nevertheless, it just makes it that much harder!
>>I'm 33 and just got my braces on today. I'm not
>>feeling very confident about my appearance at the
>>moment. My husband isn't crazy about the idea of me
>>getting braces. He said he is most concerned about
>>the cost. When he saw me with the braces for the
>>first time today, he just snickered and said he
>>thought I was getting the braces that are clear.
>>(I've got the Damon clear brackets--but there is still
>>a lot of obvious metal showing). Not exactly the
>>response I had hoped for. So, any suggestions for
>>dealing with a less than supportive spouse? Do the
>>spouses get used to the braces eventually???????
>>
>>Thanks!
>Hi Meg
>What a great post! I am a spouse that has a wife in
>braces.We have been happily married for 10 years. I
>have a hard time dealing with this as well. It has
>been over 6 months now, and there are days where I
>find it hard to give the support she needs. I know
>that she needed braces, in fact it was my idea, but
>still I have a hard time accepting this. I think it
>is because I love her,and don't really understand what
>she is going through. I want to see the end results,
>without the pain,etc. What has helped me in dealing
>with this, is communication. Be open and share your
>true feelings with each other. It has been a strain
>on our marriage. I have found alot of support from
>this board. Time heals all. I know that she will be
>much happier with a new smile, and I hope our
>relationship is better. I hope this will help
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