Re: hard times -- So What!?

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Re: hard times

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Eugene

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Date Posted: 16:08:52 05/08/03 Thu
In reply to: very confused 's message, "hard times" on 21:20:30 05/07/03 Wed

First let me say that for people who have been dating for a while, even just the thought of breaking up is extremely painful. This, I can totally relate.

Like one of quick notes said, I have come to realize that the reason for couples to come togather and the reason for them to stay together are often very different.

When people come together, it is almost a religious experience. Very often people attribute almost godlike quality to their lovers. I have sat in more than one occasion that one person (usually woman) would say something like "Oh, look! He's picking his nose. Isn't he just so cool?!" (This is the point when I throw up.) Couples come together because almost everything their mate does is irrisistably sweet and wonderful.

There are many reasons for people to stay together after the magic starts to wear off and mates return to the earthly realm. Some of the reasons are great reasons which would enable a couple to maintain a life-time of loving relationships. Others are bad reasons to stay together. About one of the worst reason is unfortunately all too common, "I don't know if I can bear the pain of breaking up." Sometimes people would rather stay in a life-long hurtful relationship to avoid the shocking pain of moving on alone.

"A bad thing is better than nothing." Or, is it?

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