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Date Posted: 08:36:01 05/16/03 Fri
Author: Blondie
Subject: Ugh, (m)
In reply to: SavCal 's message, "Bad News - support needed" on 12:33:05 05/15/03 Thu

And I am sorry that he did this to you and your family. Just remember you tried to keep your family together. You didn't make him have an affair. You can't make him want to be a father to your kids and a husband to you.
I am a "Dr Laura" person when it comes to reason's to end marriages that have kids involved. Adultery, Addiction and Abuse. He breached his vows to you. He went outside the marriage to find whatever "he" needed instead of coming to you. It is his fault...not yours. You even took him back to try and create another family. My heart honestly aches for you and your kids. This is horrible. You are not alone. You have cyber-buddies that are here. You have to decide what is important to your kids. You have to protect them....if you think staying there would be a good idea because they will need a realtionship with him....I would do it. But if you think your KIDS (not you....because of course YOU would be better off if you were miles away from him) are better off with him in their lives then you have to stay there.
Go to OK for an extended vacation.....ask your parents for advice or even ask to move back in with them.
HONEY BIG O' HUGS to you and you kids....
You can e-mail me at iublondie25@yahoo.com if you need an e-mail buddy....or IM me on aol at iublondie25.
Be strong....you can do this.....don't make yourself sick.
A good friend of mine is going through something similar. Her husband up and left after 15 years for no reason. He doesn't even want the kids on a fulltime basis. He lives with his parents and shares a room with his 7 yo and 2 yo while he has them. WTF? Creep.
Blondie

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  • If it will help... -- Kim, 09:25:28 05/16/03 Fri
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