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Date Posted: 12:49:14 03/28/04 Sun
Author: lynece
Subject: There is an LDS Social Serives commercial around here tthat says " I didn't give my baby up, I gave her more"
In reply to: Jenifer 's message, "Not to whine, but my heart hurts." on 00:33:37 03/28/04 Sun

I commend your sister for what she is doing. I wouldn't have 2 of my 3 children without their birthmothers being so selfless and loving. I truly believe the Lord will ease your sisters pain as what she is doing is so wonderful for a childless couple. But I do understand your pain for her. When we took 1 day old Hannah home from the hospital, I cried for the 18yr old that had already had to leave the hospital without her baby. Having left the hospital twice myself without a baby in my arms, I knew how empty she would feel. I cried for her when the social worker told me her milk came in, because I know the gutwrenching unfairness of your body betraying you with producing milk for the child that is not there.

If your sister chooses an open or at least semi open like we have with our birthmoms, she will get to see pictures and maybe even visit her child someday. She will Know that the choice she made was a good one and that her baby has a life that she couldn't give her.

All that being said, after having lost 2 babies, I don't think I could give up a child of my own. I had no choice in my babies being taken and I barely survived, I don't think I would have had the courage to give my child up. I'm so thankful for our birthmoms and all the wonderful women who choose to give their baby "more"

Thanks for sharing

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[> A now friend, then aquatince had a little girl about two weeks before I had my first surviving child... -- Breneman, 17:01:02 03/31/04 Wed

and it did hit me that then pain that she and her family was going through would be very simular to the emotions that I had felt when I had lost my babies, I had only miscarried the twins and delivered Matthew stillborn at that point. She was a senior in high school and the father was still interested in her but not in starting a family so she decided that adoption was the best choice for her.

Peace to you, your sister, and your family.

Mary


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