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Date Posted: 09:44:02 04/05/04 Mon
Author: Jenifer
Subject: Hey, Heather, glad to see you feel better.
In reply to: Heather S. 's message, "Hello Ladies," on 20:52:05 04/02/04 Fri

I'm sorry you were having such a hard time. With my twins Deborah and Olivia, I thought I was doing better until I hit that six months point and I did nearly the same thing. I felt like it had just happened and that I couldn't handle it. My husband was very supportive of me then, and helped me hold things together.

Lately I've had some things I couldn't post, some email groups I couldn't even check on. People I didn't want to face, places I didn't want to go. I'm just taking it day by day, letting myself set my own boundries for what I can handle and what I can't. But I'm also trying to not let any of these limitations be permanent and challenging some of my comfort level. I certainly don't want to be a hermit forever.
Like going to church. There is a young lady (15) at church who constantly asks if I'm going to have another baby. The other day I was warming my daughter's hands on my tummy after she went out without gloves in the snow, and this girl said, "It looks like she's feeling your baby, as if your pregnant." She has no idea how these comments hurt me, how much I wish I could say yes, I'm five months along, due in July. I plan on telling her the next time she says anything that I would wish she'd not ask, that I will announce a new pregnancy when and if I ever do get pregnant, but the waiting for her next comment makes me want to just stay home on Sunday. I don't, I just wish I could.

I am proud of my angels. I just wish I could see them, even once.

Heather, I'm glad you are back.

Jenifer,
Mother to six earth angels and seven angels in Heaven.
My newest angel Anna Marie, left us Dec. 5, 2003

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[> [> I know why do some people say the things they do? -- Heather S., 20:50:00 04/09/04 Fri

Sometimes I just wonder. Church is one of the most uncomfortable places for me too. Seeing other families with their cute little babies and seeing the smiles and knowing that should have been us! Hermitvill is a real thing around here too!


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