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Date Posted: 17:40:01 02/23/04 Mon
Author: Jo
Subject: Men, women grieve totally differently.....m
In reply to: Jenifer 's message, "I had a special day today. :-) (babies mentioned)" on 15:16:26 02/20/04 Fri

For a lot of men, it is a direct blow to themselves as the Patriarch in the home. They are supposed to be able to fix everything, but they can't. And in turn, they tend to try to turn off the grieving.

Then, after grieving apart, you need to learn to grieve as a couple and then as continuing parents. It isn't a short-lived period of time, but something more complex. And like anything that is hard work, sometimes people want to avoid it instead of meeting it head on and getting it all overwith.

You are certainly not toting the burden alone, but grieving is a very isolating experience. And that is where the blessings of this board come into play - unload here.

I know what helped my husband and myself was getting to know each other all over again. Grief can change people, forever, so everyone needs to be patient with each other in order to get through the journey together and intact.

Sending you some hugs anyways - I know it isn't the same, but it is all that I can offer.

Jo

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