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Date Posted: 16:11:39 10/26/03 Sun
Author: lynece
Subject: If I was a psychiatrist I would tell you that anger is just another step in the grieving process
In reply to: Heather 's message, "how do deal with the ANGER" on 15:41:27 10/26/03 Sun

But, I'm not and I know exactly where you are coming from. I avoided church so much in the early months. Our church is so focused on families and yet, doesn't seem to support those of us that are trying to have that perfect family and have children taken from us. I remember a time after I had lost both my babies and the speaker was literally telling us that if we didn't multiply and replenish the earth we would be damned! I ran out of the chapel and spent the rest of the meeting crying in a stall in the bathroom. Or when they pass around the due date list in RS. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it.

My advice is, don't keep the anger in! You must find a way to let it out. My hubby was so good at just letting me vent away about it all. I threw pillows (and like I said in response to Marie's post, my bishops wife actually bought dishes to shatter) I remember being so angry at God that I couldn't pray or read my scriptures.

You are correct. You are not the same woman you were before Noah and you can never go back there. But this doesn't mean you're not a good woman. You will be a stronger woman after this in ways that you'd never have chosen for yourself. And I will promise you that the anger will fade with time. Just writing this out I realize that although I can feel almost every emotion the same as almost 8 years ago, I don't feel the anger as vividly.

Hang in there Heather. HF loves you even if you can't feel it right now and you will make it through this. BTW, I did think of Noah on his angel day, but didn't get a chance to post.

Love, Lynece

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[> [> Thanks Lynece, -- Heather, 17:55:33 10/26/03 Sun

Glad that I am not the only one that has felt this way.
Thank you for thinking of us on Noahs 2 month Angel day, (on the 22nd) We had a hard day but we push on. The tears still flow freely!!!


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