Subject: I agree, we dont know if she was in the motherhood way when he met her or the timing, usually men who treat children that bitterly (A SMALL FEW AND BY NO MEANS MOST) find out that their wives or partners have been unfaithful or they expect that if they marry a woman in the motherly way that she will grow to love them and the woman's love never changed from the man who fathered her child even though Mr. Good Guy stepped in a gave the other man's child a name and a home