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Date Posted: 20:20:48 12/10/03 Wed
Author: Renata Nascimento
Subject: Are pieces of advice worth it?

Reading those problems about love made me either laugh or cry by remembering exactly what I had also being through or still have. There was one girl’s problem that caught my attention a lot because I wanted to tell her I do not agree with her. She has met a guy in Mexico and fell in love with him, especially because he played guitar beautifully; however, their contact was short but strong enough for her to feel very attracted to him. To sum up, after they had separated, they continued keeping in touch on MSN when one day he told her he would marry. Do you wonder how she felt afterwards? She felt happy because she knew he was happy and that she could not have him. For this thought I totally disagree with her because why can’t she feel miserable and angry with him for talking to her a lot and then tell her he would marry? From my point of view, people are always trying to support their sadness by giving arguments somehow. At the same time, I myself feel sad for her, but not sorry because I believe she had to go through it in order to respect more her real feelings. Furthermore, I did not like the tittle she gave, which is “True Love is Letting Go of Someone You Can’t Have”. I might be wrong; however, I cannot stand the fact that one person can truly love another by knowing that one’s love is with someone else. I do not get it, that’s it!

Have I let go? This is one of the questions I have read when reading those articles and once again, I have to disagree with the girl, too. She had a friend who she dated for a while. They have broke up and her ex-boyfriend now is just her friend, according to her. So far so good... she believes, poor girl, that she has let him go. In other words, she says she does not love him anymore, but misses him and talks to him every Sunday. Does it make any sense? She also mentions not having any other feeling to nobody else, which means she does still love her ex. Unfortunately, she is deceiving herself. I wish I could say that to her, but I have no guts. In fact, it is hard to say things like that to my own friend, imagine to someone I have never met in my life? Besides, though I have read her story I was not there to advice her anything or worse, to tell her what I think of all that. At last, advice, for me, does not work. The person has got to do what he/she feels like doing. Ops, I have just contradicted myself since I am the one who is giving my opinion, especially to a person who has not asked me too.

At last, I have to say that I have enjoyed reading almost everything about the topic ‘dating’. I was fun, really! The funniest thing, honestly, was when I read about the many ways a person can beat depression after being dumped by someone, especially when it comes to the first love. In my point of view, each person has a different way of getting out of a depression and should not follow anyone’s way of dealing with life, being more specific love. I guess I’ve been criticizing so much; therefore, I’d rather stop talking about the things I’ve read. I’m sorry, but I really do not believe in those kind of advice, mainly being done from a far away person, who does not know anything about your life besides what you have written.

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