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Date Posted: 15:38:07 10/23/07 Tue
Author: kgp
Subject: I think there was respect, liking and a mutual sense of what could be under other circumstances. Under the circumstance, they were as companionable as they were going to be.
In reply to: pamelalass 's message, "Interesting! It does depend on the definition of friendship, and you are right about the issue of trust and the completely unbalanced power dynamic. I sometimes think that they both recognized that John's "control" over Jamie was nominal since they acknowledged each other as men of honor, and that the whole tartan/beating episode was one way for Jamie to demonstrate that he is master of his own fate. In any case, I think although they were constrained from being actual friends, there was something more than just passing the time. I guess I felt that there was an unpsoken acknowledgment that they might actually have been friends had the circumstances been otherwise. But perhaps I used the word "friendship" too casually above -- there was some kind of mutual recognition and connection, but it was completely limited, first by their relative stations, and then by John's ill-advised overture." on 14:27:25 10/23/07 Tue


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  • Yes, there is more! Layers of more. These 2 men have gone through this balancing act of power before. In the woods, when LJG was just a teenager; Jamie treated John as an equal, a grown man. And each interaction since then has been adding to a very strong foundation for their future friendship. It's fascinating, for me, to picture this delicate dance of male-bonding. DG's grasp of human nature and behavior hits neon lights with these 2 characters. (NT) -- MelvaT, 15:51:33 10/23/07 Tue

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