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• My only thought to add is I wonder, if as women, who give up our last names in marriage; can we grasp/understand the importance to a man of a good name? I spent all day (at the VA with Bob) thinking and remembering the privileges that came with my maiden name. A name that my father had spent years building into astounding recognition in the community I grew up in. >>>> -- MelvaT, 20:45:24 10/25/07 Thu
  • It took me a long time (17 years) to change my name after marriage. It was a part of me I didn't want to let go of. My mother was, of course, horrified that I wasn't taking my husband's name. I didn't see why it should matter. (NT) -- kgp, 05:12:53 10/26/07 Fri
  • Melva—I’m not sure I’m posting this correctly because I can’t figure out how to reply to your comment specifically, but I wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed reading your poignant (and eloquently expressed) evocation of the importance men attach to their name. Your comments also made me think about how women today view their own relationship with their family name now that it’s possible, as kgp notes, to continue using it after marrying. There doesn’t seem to be as much controversy over this practice as there once was, but it wasn’t that long ago that many people felt Hillary Clinton’s initial preference to keep her maiden name hurt her husband’s political career. “What’s in a name?” Juliet famously asked. A great deal, apparently, as that play and history itself have clearly demonstrated. (NT) -- JessieR, 06:37:47 10/26/07 Fri
    • Much to the chagrin of my family and friends, I chose to hyphenate my name. I am so proud of my family history and my ancestry. I couldn't give it up, and I wante to pass taht on to my children as well. (NT) -- Oleander, 07:28:49 10/26/07 Fri
  • What's amazing to me is that we weren't rich by any means. My father managed a small town hardware store in the panhandle of Idaho, but his reputation for honesty and square dealing extended into the neighboring states as well. He would only stock the top of the line materials and products, and he stood behind everything he sold. He'd do business with anyone who paid their bill on time, but 'woe' to anyone who didn't. >>>> -- MelvaT, 10:54:10 10/26/07 Fri