My only thought to add is I wonder, if as women, who give up our last names in marriage; can we grasp/understand the importance to a man of a good name? I spent all day (at the VA with Bob) thinking and remembering the privileges that came with my maiden name. A name that my father had spent years building into astounding recognition in the community I grew up in. >>>> -- LJG Discussion board

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Date Posted: 20:45:24 10/25/07 Thu
Author: MelvaT
Subject: My only thought to add is I wonder, if as women, who give up our last names in marriage; can we grasp/understand the importance to a man of a good name? I spent all day (at the VA with Bob) thinking and remembering the privileges that came with my maiden name. A name that my father had spent years building into astounding recognition in the community I grew up in. >>>>
In reply to: MelvaT 's message, "Oh wow! Y'all are amazing. Can I add another thank you to maddiej?" on 19:50:09 10/25/07 Thu

For one, instant credit, no question asked, because everyone in the valley knew they would be paid. My 17 year old brother, Danny, strutting through the house when the bank didn't ask for a cosigner on his first loan for a truck after all his friends had needed one. As a teenager myself and having my own charge accounts at the local vet clinic and feed store for my horses. We paid the bills ourselves of course, but they were only given to us in the first place because of my father's honor.

And the crushing devastation my father went through 2 years later when I had to tell him Danny had been killed in a wreck. He had 4 daughters and a wife, but only one son. That first hour all Dad could say was, "It's all over. It's all over. There's nothing left." I'm not sure my mother ever forgave him for those words... but even at 17 I knew what he meant. Maybe that's why it took me so long to settle down and marry, eh?

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