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Subject: Some additional comments

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Date Posted: 17:58:39 02/13/05 Sun
In reply to: dave 's message, "Thank You Once Again" on 11:08:11 02/13/05 Sun

Your response to Nicole that your studies have left you with a bias toward the critical and logical persuaded me that I should respond further.

I know that feeling only too well. An important part of my last job was to see the glass as always half full. I often rained on the parade of others' enthusiasm. That was because another part of my job was to deal with things when they went south. We used to refer to our job as damage control. After years of doing that, and doing it well, I was like a logical positivist who viewed any expression of emotion or feeling as little more than an expression of the current state of one's glands. I have observed that those who express their emotions with ease are often mercurial. Their emotions seem to change like the wind. I have always distrusted that.

I love logic, reasoning and a good debate. I thrived on philosphy and logic. I have often had the feeling that many I meet have little regard for these subjects and even view them with disdain. That is their loss. I have often held my tongue because I sense that if I speak, people will just roll their eyes. Sometimes I feel there is an unjustified bias toward the expression of raw, uncensored emotion as the only genuine expression of the person.

Still, I realize this is an exploration of the sensual and intimate. In this realm, a different set of skills may be appropriate. I realize that I have neglected those skills and need to challenge myself. I often find myself stretched very thin trying to find the appropriate balance between the two. But I do believe that I have come to realize much more about myself by accepting the challenge. I do it because I am greedy and want both. I have this belief that the more I challenge myself in both, the richer my life will be. So, I find myself always having to decide when and where I relinquish one set of skills to another that I need to develop.

I suspect you will find yourself torn between the two as well. You will have to decide what balance works for you. Good luck.

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