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Subject: being bold


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Kristen
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Date Posted: 18:43:31 08/16/04 Mon
In reply to: Yoram 's message, "DO date ??" on 19:13:48 08/15/04 Sun
 Yoram
I think it is so great that you have put this out on the chatboard.

And that you mentioned to me that you want to go further with what you learned in the course.

From a woman's perspective, here is my response, (since i am a woman!) no but seriously i want to be honest about what i notice in response to your mention last night as well as in response to your email.

What comes up for me is i notice feeling more inhibited about saying yes to dates than ever. I notice myself feeling that my recent dates (the last two months) have been more intimate and i have therefore run further away from whoever i had the date with afterwards) when i first started having dates about a little over two years ago, i said yes all the time to having them and jumped in to this very intimate (supposedly) experience, yet i didnt really show up in my body, i was pretty much just acting a part.

Now i want to deliberately as possible be real with who i show up with for a date, this said, i am much more terrified to actually say YES.

It means being seen. And it means being felt and it means being intimate which i tend to AVOID AT ALL COSTS most of the time, which is of course so human and so silly because it is also what i most deeply want.

It is the nourishment i seem to constantly seek elsewhere.
So that said, i did not have an initial yes in my body to having a date with you, however i would like to talk and support you in having what you want with women in the community.

I wish all the men would be more bold and ask for more dates!

Kristen
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response...Yoram21:52:59 08/17/04 Tue
Do dateLord Byron16:48:00 08/19/04 Thu

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