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Date Posted: 17:14:47 05/30/07 Wed
Author: Rhonda K
Author Host/IP: d207-216-214-186.bchsia.telus.net / 207.216.214.186
Subject: He is being honest, you be honest too.
In reply to: Liz 's message, "Re: Question for the women here..." on 12:22:24 05/28/07 Mon

I think, because he has been so upfront, tell him your concerns...especially about the drinking and pot. Lorne smokes pot on occassion...and we both drink, but nothing has gotten to the point of ruining or controlling our lives by it. I knew Lorne smoked pot...and I know he does it too relax..when his post polio gets really bad...or stress at work gets to be too much, so he buys a little and then he is done. For me, just that he shared that with me..was very cool..and I knew I didn't want him to change...and that was a part of who he is.

Tell him that you are concerned about the personal stuff, because you work with your brother...that you would like to keep the 2 things seperate, you know that is hard to do, but that you would be more comfortable...make it about you...and not him...and that will ease the discomfort some about hurting his feelings. As for your brother, he is probably more worried about you and doing the "big brother" thing...so let him...mine did and still do on occassion, it makes them feel good about themselves. LOL.

You are right, guys brag..and talk...and hopefully this guy has grown out of it! Some do, some don't! And, I am guessing you didn't meet him in a bar...and dating...is different from one night stand!

Be careful, tread lightly...and let him know about the weird and bad situations you were in..so if you back off, he will know why.

Honesty...though tough, will always be the right thing...let him know you appreciate him sharing what he has..

As for the height...that is all up to you...I know a few couples that have the height difference with the woman being taller...and they are very happy...my sister is married to a shorter guy...and he is a jerk, because he has that "short man syndrome" ..but I know alot of men that have the confidence to not even be bothered by that.
I knew a few guys that were shorter than me, that I wouldn't have minded going out with...so once you get to know them...and they are totally nice and very respectful of you...you will feel the same.

Hope this helps...

Love and hugs...
Rhonda...

Be good to you!!!!

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