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Date Posted: 10:19:53 12/11/06 Mon
Author: Liz
Author Host/IP: NoHost / 138.32.80.20
Subject: Re: Question
In reply to: Sandy 's message, "Question" on 19:39:43 12/10/06 Sun

Sandy -- Not sure who or what you are talking about, but you aren’t stupid. My guess is you are good-hearted and trusting. Those aren’t negative qualities but sometimes we get hurt because we believe the best of people and expect them to behave as we would behave in a similar situation (honestly, decently and with integrity).

Read the book, The Four Agreements. Two of the Agreements are to make no assumptions and to take nothing personally. We set ourselves up when we have expectations and when we are disappointed we tend to blame ourselves instead of realizing that it is another person’s bad acting and culpability and loss, not ours.

Sorry that you feel hurt again, but my reaction is to respect you for taking a chance. We can protect ourselves by isolating and withdrawing and taking no risks, but what sort of reward is in that? Personally I’d be willing to be hurt a dozen times if the 13th time was a winner. In fact, you might call that my story, except it was more like 29 times and #30 was a winner.

Hugs, and if you want to talk about it, I'm happy to listen.

Liz

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