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Date Posted: 21:41:49 06/27/06 Tue
Author: Richard
Author Host/IP: adsl-75-9-240-241.dsl.sfldmi.sbcglobal.net / 75.9.240.241
Subject: Liz...
In reply to: Liz 's message, "Re: Frustration" on 09:20:10 06/26/06 Mon

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Compromise is were parties involved each give up something in order to accomplish something mutually agreeable, or something like that. The only thing is, is the one’s psyche knows it got less than it wanted. No matter how moral the one would like one’s feelings to be, the psyche is going to feel resentment. Being that people generally are taught to feel guilty about everything and anything even what they have no business being guilty about, do not necessarily bury the resentment, they so quickly deny it they do not handle it to bury it. The resentment goes unnoticed, directly to the simmering festering acidity goop in the bit of the stomach. The crap in the pit of the stomach most assuredly will find fissures to release it self at the most inappropriate times and usually burgeoning a smaller negative event of the present. Negotiating an equal exchange is where neither party gives up anything to come to an agreement. To use an oversimplified example: you have a single five dollar bill and I have five single dollar bills and we exchange them. The make up of items are different but the value is the same. As in the case with your dilemma of where to live: one of you could decide to look for new employment where not only is there more money but a much more satisfying job where the satisfaction makes it less like work and more like something enjoyable to do and the job is near affordable housing that you both are happy with. The other could buy a new or newer vehicle that is just super enjoyable to drive and thus make commuting not so bad. Maybe there is a nearby tennis court or other exercise club or something that makes living in an older home so worth living in that area. See, the make up of the exchange is different but the value is the same. The psyche does feel it got gypped at all, as when there is an agreement where each party gets less than they want.

Whew!

I as in me would still buy an older home and spend $5,000 upgrading wiring etc, rather than pay the fortune for the upkeep of newer homes. There was a reason older well built homes had plank board subflooring lain on a diagonal. Most newer homes have only too thin 4’ by 8’ sheets of plywood and way too few cross braces on the floor joists. The other things I could tell you about mass produced homes. It is not uncommon for a large builder to buy lunch for city, county, etc officials and get the building codes lowered long enough for the large builder to get their shabby pretty looking homes built.

RICHARD

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