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Date Posted: 11:15:28 06/29/06 Thu
Author: Sandy
Author Host/IP: 24-158-61-135.static.hckr.nc.charter.com / 24.158.61.135
Subject: I guess for the moment I'm content...

I've given up (for now) on dating. I'm not sure I'm ready to have a relationship. I always think I am until I start seeing someone and then as soon as I start having to deal with all the problems that come up and their baggage along with my own, I start feeling like I can't breathe or something. If they start being around everyday I start craving some time alone and start feeling resentment that they are causing me not to have any time alone.

Space has always been important to me. In past relationships, even though I loved spending time together, it was just as important to me to have at least an hour or so every evening to myself just to chill and settle my mind. (maybe having ADD makes that more crucial)

So for now I am not trying to meet anyone and not spending much time thinking about it either.

I have my son at home, when he isn't at work or with friends. I have my cats. I get all the interaction I need at work and I have great friends there to talk to. When I go home in the evenings I'm ready for peace and quiet. On weekends I can visit a friend or just hang out with family and for now that's enough.

I'm not ecstatic but I'm content. We'll see how long it lasts.

I finally realized that since I've been back in NC, after Scott and I split, I've been the happiest and most content when I wasn't worried about having a relationship or dating. The times I felt the most stressed or upset were when I started dating, trying to find a relationship.

So, the way it stands now is...the only way I'll get involved is if someone spectacular finds me and convinces me that they are worth the effort. If it's true that you find someone when you aren't looking then who knows?

Maybe if I met the right person I'd feel like putting in the effort but for now I don't. There are a lot of screwed up people with a lot of baggage out there and I seem to have met quite a few of them.

Matt's 18...his dad is finally off my back after 12 years of court and harrassment. Things are finally pretty peaceful so I'm just going to try to enjoy that for a while.

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